People can be so quickly to be offended and hurt, not giving others the benefit of the doubt. I thought it was interesting how Pahoran said that the reason he wasn't angry was that he wasn't seeking for power. I know many times when we hold grudge, it gives us a sense of power, like we think "they had no right to talk to me that way. I'll show them..." type of thing. It took great perspective, love and humility for Pahoran to not be upset.
There's a great talk by Elder Bednar about being offended here. He talks about how being offended is really a choice. It's true. Feeling offended is similar to feeling hurt, but added to that is pride, judgment and sometimes retribution (I can't believe THAT person would say that to ME. I'm not coming back to church or talking to them for three weeks!) (Ok- that was a total childish oversimplification- but you get the picture.)
Some may read the chapter and say that Pahorna had every right to be offended. But, is getting offended really a "right"? Nothing good seems to come from it.
Pahoran had the choice to read Moroni's words and be offended. ("How DARE you talk to me, the leader of the Nephites, this way. You have no idea what's going on here. How could you assume those things about me? I've got enough here on my plate, and I am SO not going to help you. That's what you get!) (Okay- I know Pahoran didn't sound like a spoiled teenage girl- but you get the picture here too. lol)
Pahoran made the choice to not be offended. He saw being the false assumptions to Moroni's courage and passion. He lovingly corrected him and humbly asked him for help. He also immediately sent help to Helaman. Because if his response he would soon get the help me so needed.
Imagine if Pahoran had chosen to be offended and written back a nasty letter, or even opted not just to ignore Moroni out of anger? We can only assume the worst for Helaman's army and the city of Zarahemla.
I also love in verse 12 when he says that he would subject himself to bondage, if that was requisite with the justice of God. It makes me rethink the trials that I have. How much more willing would I be if I knew that it was the justice of God?
Anyway- what did you think/learn today?