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Gospel Study - Only Upon the Principles of Righteousness
Today I read Only Upon
the Principles of Righteousness by Elder Larry Y. Wilson of the Seventy.
I appreciated that
Elder Wilson reminded us that the right to useanyGod-given authority, which to me includes motherhood and any
calling in the Church. We must “lead by
principles of righteousness.”
Too often we feel as
parents that we must “…compel someone to righteousness who can and should be
exercising his or her own moral agency…”
That is hard to remember. “We
simply cannot force others to do the right thing.”
I have learned from
experience that “compulsion builds resentment.
It conveys mistrust, and it makes people feel incompetent. Learning opportunities are lost when
controlling persons pridefully assume they have all the right answers for
I suffer from this
prideful parenting. Sigh.
“Wise parents prepare
their children to get along without them.”
Well I hope I am doing
that. There are days I wonder. There are also days I dread the day that they
won’t need me anymore. Then, who will I
be? My whole identity is wrapped up in
my identity of “mom”.
Well, I am most
successful when I follow the council in D&C 121:36-37 “only by persuasion, by
long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned…” will I be
able to teach my children to trust God.
Elder Wilson also warned us from waiting to let our children exercise their
“Our children are in
our homes for a limited time. If we wait until they walk out the door to turn
over to them the reins of their moral agency, we have waited too long.”